Katherine Ackling-Bryen

 

 

The last confirmed sighting of missing mum Katherine Ackling-Bryen was this security footage (above) just after noon on February 19 at St Marys Village shopping Centre.

 
 
 

Katherine Ackling-Bryen was last seen wearing the same hat and sunglasses she is wearing in this photo.

Name: BRYEN Katherine Sex: Female
Year of Birth: 1978    

 
At Time of Disappearance
Age: 37 Height (cm): 165.0 Build: Thin
Hair Colour:   Eye Colour:   Complexion: Fair
Nationality:   Racial Appearance: Caucasian    

 
Circumstances
 

Katherine was last seen at St Marys, Sydney on 19 February 2016.

Inquest into the disappearance and suspected death of Katherine ACKLING-BRYEN

CORONERS COURT OF NEW SOUTH WALES

Inquest: Inquest into the disappearance and suspected death of Katherine Ackling-Bryen

Hearing dates: 7 June 2017

Date of findings: 9 June 2017

Place of findings: State Coroners Court, Glebe

Findings of: Magistrate Harriet Grahame, Deputy State Coroner

Findings: On the balance of probabilities, I find that Katherine Ackling-Bryen is dead. She died on or soon after her disappearance on 19 February 2016. On the information before me, I am unable to determine the place, manner or cause of her death.

Introduction

On the afternoon of 19 February 2016, Michael Bryen received a call from Oxley Park Public School, informing him that his wife, Katherine, had not collected their children from school, as expected. He was surprised but thought Katherine must be running late or asleep. He stopped by their home on the way to school to collect the girls, but found no sign of his wife. That afternoon Michael reported his wife missing to the NSW Police. Tragically, despite extensive investigation and searching, Katherine Ackling-Bryen has not been located. Her disappearance has devastated her close family and many in her local community.

The role of the Coroner

The role of the coroner in a case such as this is firstly, to carefully consider whether the evidence available supports a finding that the nominated missing person is actually dead. If that can be established, the coroner must make further findings as to the date and place of death and in relation to the manner and cause of death.

1 The scope of the inquest

The inquest was held at Glebe Coroner’s Court on 7 June 2017. Oral evidence was taken from the officer in charge of the investigation, Detective Senior Constable Andrew Wells, Katherine’s husband, Michael Bryen and her mother, Susan Reeve. Extensive documentary evidence was also tendered including witness statements, photographs and CCTV footage, telephone records, various search records and maps 

Brief family background

Katherine Ackling-Bryen was born on 15 June 1978. Her parents Barry Ackling and Susan Reeve separated when she was around 13 years of age. Katherine remained living with her mother and two brothers Peter and Jonathan. The period after the separation was difficult, but Susan and her children remained close. After completing a year at Newcastle University, Katherine relocated to Sydney. While living in Sydney, Katherine met Michael Bryen and they formed a relationship. During the inquest Michael described Katherine in loving terms as both his wife and his best friend. Michael and Katherine moved in together at Blacktown. They were overjoyed when they found out Katherine was pregnant. Tragically, in March 2006 their child, Christopher, who suffered a serious genetic disorder, was premature and still born. The loss affected the couple and their families profoundly. The child was buried in Katherine’s mother’s garden and the family continued to celebrate his anniversary. Katherine and Michael had two further children, Caitlin, who was born in 2007 and Emma, who was born in 2010. Katherine is reported to have been a devoted mother, whose daughters were central to her life. In approximately 2011 Katherine, Michael and the children moved into their home on the Great Western Highway, St Marys. Although Katherine had previously begun tertiary studies and had worked part–time, in recent years she had been a stay at home mother. She is said to have become quite shy and reserved. She had strong religious or spiritual beliefs and was part of a local church community As a routine part of the investigation surrounding Katherine’s disappearance, police interviewed many of the couple’s friends and acquaintances. There was no reliable evidence of verbal or physical violence or anything particularly unusual described. Sometimes an investigation such as this will attract those who wish to peddle rumour and innuendo, however nothing of substance was unearthed. Katherine was described by many as kind, quiet and reserved. She did not appear to trust many with her private thoughts. It should be noted that Katherine had at times expressed difficulties and doubts about her marriage, privately to her mother, but there was no report of violence or threat. The couple’s children were also interviewed by specialist police. Nothing adverse was disclosed about the nature of the family relationships or the existence of trouble or violence in the home. No new or unexplained visitors to the house were revealed. Nothing of interest to the investigation was found on family electronic devices or in a full search of the family home. A comprehensive police investigation found no evidence that Katherine may have been the victim of crime or violence.

The last known sighting

As part of the investigation, police prioritised establishing a timeline of Katherine’s last known movements. The information was obtained from Michael, Caitlin and Emma Bryen, family members and parents and teachers from the school, along with CCTV footage and other physical evidence obtained during the investigation. On 19 February 2016 Michael left the family home at around 5:30am, leaving his wife Katherine asleep in their marital bed. At 8:47am Michael used his telephone to call his wife Katherine. During that conversation Katherine discussed walking towards Oxley Park Public School to drop off their eldest child Caitlin. Katherine’s usual route was to travel along the Great Western Highway, turning left onto Sydney Street and entering the school grounds through a side gate. The circumstances surrounding her dropping the girls at school are somewhat unusual and demonstrate behaviour which appears out-of-character. Katherine had indicated to Michael that their youngest daughter Emma would be staying home from school that day. Emma had reportedly suffered an embarrassment at school the day before, having soiled her clothing. This seemed to cause Katherine great stress and against her husband’s initial advice it was decided that Emma would stay home from school for the day. Katherine and the girls walked to school with Emma still in her pyjamas. It appears that on the trip home Katherine changed her mind about Emma missing school and made a decision to take her back and leave her there, still dressed in her pyjamas.2 She said that she would be back to collect both girls at 3:00pm. The children later reported that Katherine had tears in her eyes and appeared upset on the journey. Reports from the school indicate that Emma was signed in to school at 9.30am and that administration staff provided her with a uniform. The school reports that Katherine returned later with her daughter’s shoes. It is difficult to understand why this behaviour did not ring some warning bell at the school. It was quite out-of character. With hindsight, it was so unusual within the family’s history at the school that it tended to indicate the need for concern or follow-up of some kind. The school may take this opportunity to review their practices in this regard. During the morning, Katherine contacted her mother, father and both her brothers. The conversations seemed normal and happy, but it was, on reflection, odd that she had called all her family members on the same day. At 11:22am Katherine boarded a 744 bus. It appears that she exited the bus in the vicinity of the St Mary’s Village Centre, St Mary’s. After entering the Village Centre, Katherine is captured entering and then leaving the Target store heading in the direction of the eastern exit of the St Mary’s Village Centre. She purchased a few items of children’s clothing. While it is unclear exactly how Katherine returned to the family home on the Great Western Highway, it appears that she returned home due to the fact that items purchased were subsequently found within the family 

residence. It seems that around this time Katherine may have commenced cooking a meal for her family in the slow cooker. After this point it is impossible to account for Katherine’s further movements. Her wallet and mobile telephone were in the house when the family returned. It appears that Katherine had taken a single form of identification.

Katherine’s mental health history

Katherine had a history involving some mental health care. Her mother described her as a loving child who had struggled with abandonment issues after the family breakdown. In teenage and early adulthood she had experienced troubled periods and had suffered depression and anxiety. At times she struggled with finding a place to belong.3 Her relationship with Michael and her first pregnancy seemed to bring her happiness, but the loss of that child triggered further grief and profound sadness. In January 2013 Katherine suffered a psychotic episode. She was admitted to the Pialla ward at Nepean Hospital for treatment. At that time she was described to have sudden onset paranoia and hyper-vigilance. She expressed fear that her husband was trying to harm her and the children. These fears were considered unfounded by the treating team and seemed to pass as she recovered. At this time she was treated with anti-psychotic medication which brought some improvement to her mental state. Katherine was noted to have expressed suicidal thoughts during this period. She was discharged after about 3 weeks. Katherine was diagnosed with a form of schizophreniform psychosis. She also disclosed ongoing anxiety since childhood and an indecent assault by a family member. Katherine’s mother told the court that there was inadequate follow-up after this admission and it appears that Katherine was not involved in any ongoing therapy. Certainly there is no record of Katherine ever establishing a strong and meaningful therapeutic relationship with a mental health practitioner or case manager. Following her hospitalisation, it appears that Katherine’s mental health issues were judged by her general practitioner to be well controlled with medication. She does not seem to have had any specialist mental health care or follow up. It is difficult to know if Katherine would have been receptive to further intervention or whether she merely hoped that she could put the period of her hospitalisation behind her. She is reported by some to have been somewhat embarrassed and ashamed of this episode. After her release from Nepean Hospital there were happy times with the family, but also ongoing periods of sadness and depression. At times Katherine appeared to others as withdrawn and quiet. In 2015 Katherine became pregnant and this prompted a decision to stop taking the medication she had been prescribed. Her husband reported that this did not appear to change her mood, but in retrospect there may have been subtle changes. Unfortunately, the pregnancy was not viable and in November 2015 she was admitted to Nepean Hospital after an incomplete miscarriage. This event was also extremely traumatic for Katherine. Katherine does not appear to have resumed her medication after this time.

Land searching

Police carried out extensive physical searches in the local area. This included door knocking and canvassing around her home and school. An aerial search was conducted that included the South Creek area between the M4 to the south and Ninth Avenue, Llandilo to the north. Later, there was further aerial searching of Federation Forest. None of these searches were successful. A land and water search was also conducted in the park land area along South Creek. This included officers on foot and officers from the NSW Police Marine Area Command in kayaks. Police dogs and cadaver dogs were also used, to no result

Other police investigations

On 22 February 2016 police established a strike force to manage the data and to allow for a systematic approach in relation to the investigation of Katherine’s disappearance. The investigation continued with the name strike force Pateman, under the supervision of Detective Senior Constable Andrew Wells. I have had the opportunity to review their records and am well satisfied a comprehensive search took place. Unfortunately, there was very little reliable information found which could narrow the potential search area. Had Katherine taken a train to the Blue Mountains area, for example, the areas to cover are truly vast and impenetrable. In these difficult circumstances, I note that both Katherine’s husband and mother had no complaints in relation to the search undertaken and thanked all involved for their search efforts. They spoke positively of the wide range of strategies undertaken.4 The investigation obtained a large amount of evidence including CCTV footage and telephone records. Computers belonging to the family were interrogated and mobile phones downloaded. Numerous investigations were undertaken with local bus and taxi companies. Sydney Trains examined a large amount of CCTV footage for the police. The process of examining the rail CCTV was somewhat frustrating for Detective Senior Constable Wells.5 However it should be acknowledged that there were significant problems with the size of the initial request, given the range of cameras and stations potentially involved. The fact that police could do no more than guess where Katherine may have gone made the task extremely difficult. No useful sightings were identified in the material reviewed.

The task force also used the New South Wales police media unit to prepare a targeted media strategy to seek assistance from members of the public in the search of Katherine Ackling-Bryen. As a result of that strategy a number of people began to contact police with alleged sightings. These sightings included areas in St Mary’s, North Richmond, Bowral, Swansea, Mt Druitt, Seven Hills and Windsor. A review of all the available data demonstrated women of similar description to that of Katherine Ackling-Bryen, however on closer inspection no confirmed sightings were identified. Similarly, ‘Crime stopper” reports from the public revealed no new information. Various method of communication were used including television, facebook and newsprint. Police arranged for a major media campaign to seek assistance from the public. A number of major news outlets contributed to a national appeal for public assistance. The task force contacted women’s refuges and domestic violence services throughout New South Wales. However none of these efforts were successful in locating Katherine Ackling-Bryen. As part of the investigation it was necessary to determine the movements of Michael Bryen. His movements on 19 February 2016 were tracked by viewing CCTV footage, interviewing his employer, and examining mobile phone records. No discrepancies or unusual gaps were identified. CCTV footage was sought from local shopping centres and from the local bus company. No useful evidence was obtained. Local hospitals were contacted to no avail. A missing person letter drop was undertaken and letters were delivered to a large number of residential homes seeking assistance from the public. A large number of statements were taken from friends at the school and local church. Both organisations also cooperated with their own appeals.

Is Katherine dead? As is usual in a case of this sort, police made numerous inquiries with all State and Territory Law Enforcement agencies, Births Deaths and Marriages and Missing Persons Units. Each of these agencies returned a negative result in locating Katherine Ackling-Bryen. Births Deaths and Marriages confirmed that there has been no “change of name”, or “registration of death” in the name of Katherine AklingBryen. Other checks conducted include with banks and government agencies. There was no reported unexplained financial or other activity after her disappearance. Katherine was not the sort of person with access to large amounts of cash to secure a permanent departure. There was no evidence that she had made new friends recently or that she had started a secret relationship. Michael Bryen gave evidence that he now accepted that Katherine must be dead. He did not believe that she had died as a result of foul play. His own process in coming to this realisation was understandably painful and he had gone to enormous lengths to find her. Michael had even travelled to the Blue Mountains and walked down paths and to lookouts in his desperate attempt to locate his wife.6 In the final analysis he believed the strongest indication of her death was that there had been no contact with her children. He believed that her love for the girls was so strong that had she been alive she would have reached out in some way. At first Katherine’s mother had believed that her daughter would not have left her children and for that reason she hoped Katherine may be alive somewhere. However, as time went on Susan Reeve also came to accept that if Katherine was alive, and for some reason had left her marriage, she would not have been able to stay silent through her children’s birthdays and the anniversaries that had now passed. It was simple but compelling evidence. Michael Bryen gave evidence that since his wife had disappeared he had noticed that a nike bag and a quilt were also missing. The quilt had enormous sentimental value to Katherine. It had been sewn by her mother, based on a design they had coloured together while Katherine was in the Pialla Unit. The design was colourful and in the shape of a mandala. The quilt had a celestial theme, with stars and moons and reminded them of her son, Christopher. Both Michael and Susan felt it was significant that the quilt was missing and thought Katherine may have taken it.7

Given the seriousness and finality of finding that a person is dead, proof of the issue “must be clear, cogent and exact” before a finding can be made8 . The evidence in Katherine’s case clearly reaches this threshold. It is now 16 months since she was last seen. There has been no contact or any sign of life. Many important anniversaries have come and gone. While her body has not been located, on the balance of probabilities, it has been established that Katherine is dead. In my view the evidence allows a further finding that she died on or soon after the day she was last seen. Beyond that the Court is unable to say what has happened. It may be that Katherine has suffered further mental health issues and died by suicide or accident. There are certainly aspects of her behaviour on the morning of 19 February 2016 which indicate that Katherine may have been unwell. However, this is no more than a theory. An open finding will be recorded in relation to her place of death and in relation to the manner and cause of her death. Susan Reeve’s DNA will remain on file and be available for any future testing if it is required.

Findings required by s81 (1)

On the balance of probabilities, I find that Katherine Ackling-Bryen is dead. She died on or soon after her disappearance on 19 February 2016. On the information before me, I unable to determine the place, manner or cause of her death.

Conclusion

Finally, I once again offer my sincere condolences to Michael Bryen, Susan Reeve and their families. I thank them for their participation in this inquest and for the generous way they shared memories of Katherine. It is clear to me that Katherine loved her children deeply and as the girls grow up I am confident that they will be reassured of this by the loving family around them. I thank Detective Senior Constable Wells for his conscientious investigation.

I close this inquest.

Harriet Grahame

Deputy State Coroner

Date: 9 June 2017

 

No clues or suspects as Oxley Park mum Katherine Ackling-Bryen vanishes

ST MARYS police have released key details about missing Oxley Park mum Katherine Ackling-Bryen and CCTV footage of her last known movements in the hope it will help solve the baffling disappearance.

It has been 12 days since the 37-year-old was last seen or heard from.

Detectives hope releasing more details might encourage anyone with information to come forward.

St Marys crime manager Detective Inspector Barry Vincent said even the smallest detail, which may seem insignificant, could help the case now being investigated by Strikeforce Pateman.

“We are particularly interested in anyone who may have dashcam footage to show us Katherine’s movements in the afternoon she went missing,” Det-Insp Vincent said.

Mrs Ackling-Bryen walked from her home on the northern side of the Great Western Highway near the St Marys and Oxley Park border to take her two daughters, aged 5 and 8, to Oxley Park Public School just before 9am on Friday, February 19. She then returned to the school at 10.30am to drop off items for one of her daughters.

The next confirmed sighting of Mrs Ackling-Bryen was almost an hour later when security footage captured her shopping at Target inside St Marys Village shopping centre in Charles Hackett Drive at St Marys.

Insp Vincent said detectives believed she may have taken a bus to the shopping centre but left on foot towards Queen St.

“We believe she did make it home as the items she purchased from Target were inside her home still in the shopping bags,” Det-Insp Vincent said.

He also confirmed Mrs Ackling-Bryen’s mobile phone and purse were found in her locked home.

Insp Vincent said concerns for the devoted mother’s safety were raised when she failed to pick up her daughters from school.

“Katherine was reported missing by her husband around 3.30pm that day as it was out of character for her not to pick up their children; he was concerned from the outset,” Insp Vincent said.

He said detectives had no suspects or evidence to indicate Mrs Ackling-Bryen met with foul play.

“There is a large chunk of time we can’t account for and that’s where the public could really help us,” Det-Insp Vincent said.

Police have received information about possible sightings at Bowral.

Mrs Ackling-Bryen is also known to have family on the Central Coast, none that have reported hearing from her.

Husband Michael Bryen told The Standard last week he and his daughters were “coping as best they can” and on Saturday he made a plea on Facebook.

“We’re at eight days now and somebody out there has to know something. The littlest thing may make all the difference,” Mr Bryen wrote.

If you can help call Crime Stoppers on 1800 333 000.

Police renew appeal to help find missing Sydney mother Katherine Ackling-Bryen

Updated 

Police have renewed their appeal for the public's help to find a missing woman who was last seen nearly two weeks ago at St Marys, in Sydney's west.

Katherine Ackling-Bryen, 37, dropped her two children at school and then went to a shopping centre on Charles Hackett Street at 11:30am on February 19.

She has not been seen since.

It is believed Ms Ackling-Bryen returned to her home on the Great Western Highway at St Marys, and left again between 12:30pm and 3:00pm.

NSW Police Inspector Barry Vincent said in the past two weeks police had made a number of inquiries to try to locate her.

"The inquiries that we've made thus far do not indicate that she's accessed any bank accounts since February 19," Inspector Vincent said.

"There's a number of items that she left within the home that you would normally expect a person to take such as mobile phone, identification and bank cards.

"Our inquiries thus far don't indicate that it's suspicious at this time but nonetheless we're very concerned for her welfare."

He said as more time passed, Ms Ackling-Bryen's family became increasingly concerned.

"Her husband and her children and obviously the extended family are concerned for her welfare," Inspector Vincent said.

"You can only feel for them at the moment."

Ms Ackling-Bryen is described as Caucasian, medium height, medium build with brown hair and hazel eyes.

She was last seen wearing a grey top, black tracksuit pants, light blue hat and sunglasses.

Video of Ms Ackling-Bryen was captured on CCTV footage at the St Marys shopping centre.

Police have now released stills of the footage in an attempt to locate her.

They have called for anyone that has any information about her whereabouts to contact St Marys Police or Crime Stoppers.

Husband pleads for information on missing Oxley Park mum Katherine Ackling-Bryen

THROUGH tears Katherine Ackling-Bryen’s husband Michael Bryen has spoken of the anguish he has faced every day since she went missing almost five weeks ago. Yesterday he sat down with The Standard on what was their youngest daughter Emma’s sixth birthday.

“I’m doing the best I can, today is particularly tough,” Mr Bryen said.

“She (Emma) doesn’t understand this … and it’s our oldest daughter Caitlin’s ninth birthday soon too, on April 7.

“I’ll admit I’ve looked out the front of our house a couple of times today hoping to see Katherine.”

Mr Bryen said explaining to both his daughters why their mum wasn’t home has been tough.

“At the moment I just keep to the story, ‘mummy must not be feeling right and is staying with friends, and we don’t know where that is so that’s why the police are trying to find her,” he said.

Mr Bryen said he has replayed every moment leading up to his wife’s disappearance on February 19 and every moment since.

“I’ve been through everything, and over everything a million times,” he said.

“She was just her normal self, the days leading up were normal.”

Mr Bryen said he can’t think of any reason his wife of six years and partner of 16 years would choose not to come home.

“Things were great, these are meant to be the best days of our lives,” he said.

“She is our life, she is my life and I just can’t understand this, it just makes me sick.”

Just five days before Katherine disappeared was Valentine’s Day and Mr Bryen said the girls helped him decorate the house with love heart balloons and rose petals.

Mr Bryen said he last spoke to Katherine just before 9am on the morning she disappeared to say good morning to the girls as he did every day.

He said it was then when Katherine told him she was keeping Emma home from school.

“Alarm bells rang when the school called me at about 3.20pm to say Katherine hadn’t picked the girls up,” Mr Bryen said.

“That was first I knew Katherine had decided to take Emma to school as well.”

Mr Bryen said Katherine would never forget to pick up the girls so he was immediately worried.

“She was the most devoted person … you couldn’t get near those children if she didn’t know you,” he said.

“Right away I knew it was odd.”

He said straight after leaving the school he went home to find the doors locked.

“She had put dinner on and had only left with the house keys, which was normal when she was just going to pick the girls up from school,” Mr Bryen said.

“That’s when I called the police.”

Mr Bryen pleaded for Katherine or anyone with information to come forward.

He said, while he was hanging on hope Katherine would come home, he was afraid she has possibly met with foul play.

“What the hell has happened to you Katherine?,” he said.

“Even if you call your mum or someone, if not me for whatever reason, please call your children at least.”

Mr Bryen said he has deliberately tried not to pay attention to “trolls” suggesting he was to blame for Katherine’s disappearance.

Instead he was focusing on the friends and family helping him through.

He said he did not want to appear on camera or in photos to protect his children from any negative comments.

St Marys crime manager Detective Inspector Barry Vincent said even the smallest detail, which may seem insignificant, could help the case now being investigated by Strikeforce Pateman.

“I would urge anyone with information to come forward, you can provide information anonymously through Crime Stoppers by calling 1800 333 000,” Insp Vincent said.

He asked anyone coming forward to make direct comment and not leave information which could help in comments on Facebook.

What do we know?

KATHERINE walked from her home on the northern side of the Great Western Highway near the St Marys and Oxley Park border to take her two daughters to Oxley Park Public School just before 9am on Friday, February 19.

She then returned to the school at 10.30am to drop off items for one of her daughters.

The next confirmed sighting of Katherine was almost an hour later when security footage captured her shopping at Target inside St Marys Village shopping centre in Charles Hackett Drive at St Marys.

Insp Vincent previously said detectives believed she may have taken a bus to the shopping centre but left on foot towards Queen St.

“We believe she did make it home as the items she purchased from Target were inside her home still in the shopping bags,” Det-Insp Vincent said.

He also confirmed Katherine’s mobile phone and purse were found in her locked home.

“Katherine was reported missing by her husband around 3.30pm that day,” Insp Vincent said.

He said detectives had no suspects or evidence to indicate Katherine met with foul play.

“There is a large chunk of time we can’t account for and that’s where the public could really help us,” Det-Insp Vincent said.

Timeline

8.45am:

walks daughters to Oxley Park Public School

10.30am:

returns to the school to drop off a uniform

11.22am:

captured on CCTV shopping at St Marys Village shopping centre

12.17pm:

CCTV shows her leaving the shopping centre

3.30pm:

Michael Bryen files a missing person’s report with St Marys police

Katherine Ackling-Bryen’s family are pleading for information about her disappearance

THE three and a half months since Oxley Park mum Katherine Ackling-Bryen disappeared have been the toughest of her husband’s life.

Michael Bryen does still hold out hope that his wife will be found or come home, but the recent months have been so hard he feels “numb”.

Two family birthdays and a Mother’s Day have passed without Ms Ackling-Bryen being there.

She vanished, seemingly without a trace, leaving their home on the Great Western Highway locked, on February 19. She took only her keys.

Mr Bryen and Ms Ackling-Bryen’s mother, Sue, are calling for any information people in the area might have about that day.

They hope members of the public might have seen her walking somewhere, or asking for a ride, during that afternoon.

“It’s increasingly difficult ... there hasn’t been any leads at all and that’s a bitter pill to swallow,’’ Mr Bryen said.

“You just can’t imagine yourself ever being in this situation.”

He credits a strong family and friend network, as well as a flexible and understanding workplace, for holding himself and the family — including young daughters Emma, 6 and Caitlin, 9 — together.

“Some days are better than others, but I wouldn’t exactly call those days good either,’’ he said.

 

“To be honest, I’m quite numb to it, it’s very grinding and taxing.”

Ms Ackling-Byren’s mother, Sue, said the family fluctuates between despair and hope.

“I’m her mother, so I’m biased. She is just a lovely and loving young woman,” Sue, who wanted her surname withheld, said.

“She loves her family — every time we spoke she said ‘I love you’ and we said ‘I love you to her’, every single time.”

Sue said the pain of not knowing was gnawing at her.

“We just wake up every morning hoping that this is the day that she going to be found. There is just a huge hole left in our family where she should be,’’ she said.

“There is just the anguish of not knowing. It’s just unbearable.”

Already her young family are struggling through milestones without her there to enjoy them.

Both daughters have celebrated a birthday since Ms Ackling-Bryen disappeared.

And a few weeks ago was Mother’s Day, a particularly painful event this year.

“That was a hard one,” Mr Bryen said.

“The girls had stalls at school where they buy things for mum, and they did the same thing.

“We wrapped the things up and then on the afternoon of Mother’s Day we unwrapped them — that was quite emotional.”

Mr Bryen and the kids enjoyed the support of close family on the day, including going to a high tea together, but “that gets you only so many hours through the day. The afternoon was quite emotional.”

He said Ms Ackling-Bryen’s disappearance was hardest on their youngest daughter, Emma.

“She misses the most basic things, like cuddles from mum,’’ he said, fighting back tears.

“You can get them from Dad, but they’re not the same.”

Both Mr Bryen and Sue praised the work and support of St Marys police, who have been searching for Ms Ackling-Bryen, but said they needed the public’s help to find her.

They want you to take a good look at the picture, think about where you might have seen her on February 19, and talk to someone about it.

“I wish people would talk,’’ Mr Bryen said.

“Somebody has to know. It may be the person that hasn’t picked up the paper or had the conversation.”

And what if Katherine comes home?

“We’ll be here,’’ Mr Bryen said.

Anyone with information is urged to call police, or Crime Stoppers on 1800 333 000.